Mountain or a mole hill
I was sprawled on the bed
Casually reading
Something that was at hand
Not my bed though
Was in my sons room watching him study
For his upcoming exam
That’s tomorrow
And it’s past midnight now
The insistent sleep
Wants to close my eyes
While he wanted me to stay awake
Till he was done
May be as a support
Or company
Or a good luck charm, I thought
And smiled
Knowing well that was not the case
He was anxious jittery
Like any other adolescent before exams
Though not overtly
Maybe he looked a bit down
Is it exhaustion or something else
Does he need help
And what kind
As a father I don’t think much
Don’t like to create mountains out of mole hills
Though that thought always stays
At the back of my mind
Is it a mountain
Is it a mole hill
©️ShashikantDudhgaonkar
Depends on which grade he is in! My grandson asks for help if he wants it. Otherwise we stay quiet
Actually as doctors we see a lot mental health issues in adolescents. They can be anything from depression, complexes, impulsiveness and hyperactivity to suicide attempts. It’s difficult for parents to pick up the signals or cries for help. And if not attended on time can lead to terrible consequences. From suicide to being scarred for life. A lot many parents oscillate between, does my child require help or he/she doesn’t need any help from mental health experts. Wasting valuable time.
Oh I know that. The kids are very troubled these days especially those exposed to bullying on social media or in person. But the irony is that they don’t share their feelings with their parents.
Yes. That is a problem. Also they can’t come to terms with life for life has become extremely complex now.
It has become difficult but I think the key is to have open communication with them. Talk to them about everything. They may feel encouraged to talk about their issues too
Such kindness and understanding. 🙏🏼
A lovely poem, shashi.
Your poem reminds me of bygone era, when my aaji or aai used to sit quietly besides me during early morning hours. One may not realize but it a blessing.
Thanks Rupali for your appreciation.
And yes, Most of the times just being there is enough. Was giving company to my son as he was preparing for his second year architecture exams. Anyways kids are not going to be there with us always. So it’s better to steal some more moments now.
Also there’s a worry that he might be getting over stressed. And wether he requires professional help.